Welcome to Marriage-CPR.com! Our goal is to provide resources and real-life solutions to help couples as we each navigate the beautiful, yet difficult union of marriage! As I was scrolling through Facebook the other day, I saw a post on a friend’s page that read, “Marriage Isn’t for Punks!” While this is a very comical statement, it is also a very true statement!
Marriage is a very special bond formed by God as He joins two people together as one. However, it isn’t always easy for two individuals to walk through life as one.
Often, when we first get married, we imagine a picture-perfect marriage where every day will be filled with roses! While you can literally have physical roses every day if you want (I used to work at TV station with a lady whose husband sent her roses every week), the reality is that even the happiest couples will face conflict in marriage. However, the key to maintaining a happy marriage depends on how you choose to respond to that conflict.
Yes, I used the word choose because each of us have choices in all our relationships and those choices ultimately set the tone for our relationships and our lives. We often say things like, “He made me go off on him,” but the truth of the matter is you chose to go off on him and then blame him for it. You have no control over what happens to you, but you alone are responsible for your actions.
Think back over some of the blow-ups you’ve had with your spouse. How many times have you said or did things that you later wished you could take back? Now, imagine how different things would be if you chose to respond differently.
Proverbs 17:14 (ESV) “The beginning of strife is like letting out water, so quit before the quarrel breaks out.”
Over the years, my husband and I have faced some tough challenges, but we’ve been fortunate that God has blessed our marriage abundantly with grace. I’ve learned that being right isn’t always that important, because at the end of the day, I just want what’s best for us. I’ve also learned that approaching my spouse with love and respect is much more effective in resolving conflict. Lastly, I’ve learned that marriage takes two forgiving hearts as you will need to forgive and you will need to be forgiven.
Indeed, marriage isn’t for punks! Marriage takes courage, lots of love, unshakeable faith and the grace of God covering you and your spouse every step of the way. Remember we all have choices in our marriage – choose wisely!